Feb
22
2010
And Second Nature
 wrote this at 8:53 pm

After 9 months in Korea, some things have become second nature.

Like bowing anytime I say hello or thank you, thinking of dollar amounts in won instead of US dollars and listening harder to conversations because understanding broken English can be difficult.

But Friday, I was caught off guard.

I made a phone call to 121 (pronounced one-two-one) - the hospital unit up at Yongsan in Seoul.

Expecting to hear a Korean voice on the other end, I suddenly heard a lilting Texas drawl,

“Radee-awlogee – Gewd afternewn, ser or ma’aaaam, how maih I help yew?”

And I was home.

Military voices are a hodge-podge of north, south, east & west…with hints of Spanish, German & Hangul thrown in here & there. So I don’t hear too many Texas accents anymore.

Shoot, I even gave mine up years ago in an attempt to crawl up the corporate ladder. But when I’m really tired, my drawl will come back out.

[And people never fail to point it out.]

But It’s amazing what a friendly voice can do – my shoulders relaxed first, then my eyes teared up.

I didn’t have to listen extra hard to understand what she was saying. I didn’t have to speak slow & clear to make sure I would be understood in return.

And with those realizations, came the next…

Life here is hard. You work hard at it everyday & over time you just stop recognizing how much harder you work at everything.

It just becomes second nature to do the extra work.

So there I was on the phone, near tears, talking to a woman who sounded like my Aunt Terri…and suddenly I wasn’t quite so scared to be asking for an appointment to get an MRI.


AN UPDATE

Yes – my head still hurts. And for those who’ve been asking me about what’s going on, here’s the current run-down:

  • My head began hurting Feb. 2nd….yes, 20 days ago.
  • Burning, piercing, pounding, constant never-ending pain.
  • All my symptoms point towards a classic runaway migraine, except for the fact that it’s been 20 days.
  • I’ve been to the medical clinic on base twice, been to the urgent care clinic once.
  • I’ve seen three separate doctors.
  • I’ve been prescribed increasing levels of pain meds – none of which work.
  • I’ve been hooked-up to an IV migraine cocktail – which didn’t work.
  • My blood pressure has been hovering around 150/108 with a 109 pulse rate.
  • This last doc debated whether or not to hospitalize me on the spot.
  • Instead he had blood drawn, put in “asap” referrals for an MRI & Neurology consult and presribed me hospital-grade pain meds…all of 6 pills.

That was Wednesday of last week.

I had to wait two days for the referrals to be in the system to try to make the appointments & when I got a hold of Neurology first, the detached voice on the other end of the phone informed me I couldn’t been seen until March 23rd – more than 28 days away. But suggested I call back Tuesday to see if there was a cancellation for me to get in earlier.

Which brings me back to the woman at Radiology.

While it was a great comfort to talk with her, their schedule couldn’t get me in until March 15th – even though the referrals say “asap”.

As she went to book it, I heard her say, “Oh no….I’m so sorry.”

And while I can’t tell you why she couldn’t book it – an OPSEC issue- I can tell you she essentially penciled me in & told me to call back Tuesday as well.

That would be tomorrow.

OPSEC – Operation Security: A blanket Army term that essentially means ‘loose lips sink ships’. The old WWII saying meant to keep family & friends from unintentionally giving away key information about military operations. Something we have to be extra careful about here.

So if I could ask a favor…

I really need to get in sooner than next month & if you would keep my in your thoughts & prayers, I would appreciate it.

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  1. Terri Barnett says:

    R U Kiddin’ me???? I’m about to open a 55 gallon drum of whoop-ass on ‘em!!! Try calling the doc back that sent you for MRI. Tell him they have told you 1 month away, and see if he can pull any strings to get you in earlier. I wouldn’t just take this without trying to see if anyone could help get it quicker. I cannot believe they have been so unconcerned given the history. I KNOW THEY CAN GET YOU IN SOONER, IF THEY WANTED TO!!!!!

    How long does it take to get to MRI place? Call the lady back, explain the history (which I’m sure you probably did when you called earlier), and ask if SHE will call YOU if they have a cancellation. Tell her you will drop everything and come a runnin’.

    You are already on the prayer list at church, but I will update the info. Hang in their, kiddo.

    Love you much, Aunt Terri

  2. Aunt Terri, your prayers are much appreciated. I’m praying here on this end too. It’s just so dang hard here. The medical clinic is tiny and understaffed. They are called on to do way too much with way too little. It would not be an understatement to call you congressman and ask for help for us here. I know that we are supposed to recieve the same medical care as the soldiers, but the truth is we are second class citizens. It sucks. All us wives and kids in the same boat, sigh.

  3. Val says:

    Jen, you’re in my prayers and have been for a while now. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re feeling. It would almost be quicker for you to fly home and get the tests done here. This is just an absolute crying shame!!! Hang in there darlin’….keep the faith…God will come through for you.

  4. Debbie says:

    It really bothers me that our armed forces families are not treated better than this. If you were home, you’d get immediate attention at any quick care facility. I have been concerned about you, reading about your headaches which shouldn’t hang on this long. This morning I prayed you’d get a call back to come in for a checkup. I will do so again.
    Please tell us soon that you’ve been helped:
    Debbie

  5. Gen says:

    I SO relate to your post. I traveled abroad to Italy when I was in undergrad. and, while I was empathetic to the plight of migrants and transplants anyway, had a crash course in the trials of living in a foreign country. I couldn’t even get a grocery cart at the store (they’re all locked together with metal chain link and require a coin, who knew)! These sorts of challenges become second nature and yet so exhausting that they cannot be described to those who have not experienced them. It was a radical lesson in understanding and one that has left me with greater patience for individuals struggling in this country. You will definitely be in my prayers, both for the migraine and the daily drudgery. I have a close friend with “cluster” migraines who does not get much relief and it is agonizing. Your BP is a concern though and it is good to know that the doctor was paying attention even if the system is not.

  6. Sandra Sterling says:

    Jenn: Please go back to the same physician who prescribed the MRI and tell him what is happening. Also, ask for blood pressure pills. I think if he would admit you to the hospital in Seoul you would get an immediate workup with and MRI instead of trying to do everything on an outpatient basis. Sorry I’m not there with you. They told me it was due to budgetary constraints that they withdrew the employment offer.

  7. I’ve been praying and will continue to pray for you. Like others, I really do think the doctor who ordered the MRI needs to be told of the run-around you’re receiving.

  8. Joy says:

    Jennifer, after reading this I have to tell you that our daughter Stephanie suffered with migraines for several years before her bp went up. That eventually was the clue to the diagnosis. She had had ureter surgery as a child to correct a birth defect and because of that only has the use of one kidney. The other one is atrophied (shrunk and bascially useless). After they got the bp meds correct, her migraines went away. BP can be a sign of something else in our body not right the neurologist said. She takes 3 different kinds but they are low dose and they have kept her free of headaches and given her her life back. Praying for you sweetie, just keep going back to the doctors until you get relief.
    Joy at GrannyMountain

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